Thursday, June 23, 2011
The death of Forest Andrews affects us all.
The tragedy is one that takes something away from each of us, because he had the potential to touch the life of everyone he met, through his art, music, sense of humor, and spirituality.
A young man who died in a tragic, impulsive moment had plans to serve others.
How can a stranger to Forest Andrews, who had many friends, come to understand this bright light too soon extinguished?
Forest was preparing to travel abroad to work at making the world a little better, by serving victims of a terrible injustice still found in the world: the sexual slavery of children. This is a concern of many people in this community, and one Forest was willing to take action upon, as were his sister and other local youths.
They planned to leave June 22 for the two-week trip.
Forest and his sister, Ahnauna, wrote in a fundraising letter this month. "We will be with a team of 24, helping to build an orphanage for girls who are at high risk for being sold into the sex trade in Thailand. We will be working with an organization called Remember Nhu.
"We are so excited to have this chance to go to Thailand and help provide a safe place for these young girls. We are sure our lives will also be changed in the process; it is so easy to forget how privileged we are here at home. It is also easy to get caught up in our own lives and forget the struggles that many people have to deal with every day."
How can anyone understand the loss of Forest Andrews, anyone who has not gone through the trial of the death of a young loved one?
A family friend provides a glimpse, here and in our main story on page A1. The photo you see of Forest expresses his happy, giving nature, said his friend Jesse Larvick.
"We've been going through all the family photos in preparation for the service and it's therapeutic in a way; you go through them and every single one of them he's smiling," Larvick said.
"Time spent together" is proving the best possible therapy for friends and family who are dealing with the loss, he said.
"The house is consistently full of people, and that's the way they love it right now. There really aren't (any words to say); to me it's senseless," Larvick said of Forest's death. "None of it takes away the loss.
"In terms of what's being said to his friends, it's mainly just watching them band together, spending time in his bedroom," Larvick said. "His friends have been sleeping in his room. The kids are just being together; it's beautiful."
Larvick said Scripture is helping Mike and Erin Andrews, Forest's parents. Speaking as a close family friend, he admired the quality of their quiet grieving.
"Really, it's just spending time, enjoying his memory; definitely spiritually for us, his Dad has been clinging to the scripture of Jesus Christ, hanging on the cross next to a thief, and he tells him, 'I promise you today you'll be with me in paradise.' That's been comforting for the family.
"They are a sight to behold; they've been really great."
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Parkdale third graders sing "12 Disaster Days of Christmas"
Welcome to your sing-able Christmas gift list. What follows is an emergency rendition of “12 Days of Christmas” – for outfitting your home or car in case of snow storm, earthquake, flood or other emergency. Read it as a simple list, or sing it to the tune of “12 Days” – you know, as in “ … and a partridge in a pear tree…” Not to make light of it, but the song is a familiar framework for a set of gift ideas that you could consider gathering together, even if the recipient already owns items such as a bunch of coats, tire chains and flashlights. Stores throughout the Gorge are stocked up on all these items. Buying all 12 days might be prohibitive, but here are three ideas for checking any of the dozen off your list (notations follow, 1-12.) The gift items needed to stay warm, dry and safe are also coded to suggest items in your abode (A) in your car (C) or both (B). 12 Gallons of Water (A) 11 Family meals (B) 10 Cans of propane (A) 9 Hygiene bags (B) 8 Packs of batteries (A) 7 Spare coats (B) 6 Bright red flares (C) 5 Cozy blankets (B) 4 Tire chains (C) 3 Flashlights (B) 2 cell phone chargers (B) 1 And a crush-proof first aid kit (B) Price ranges? Here’s a few quotes for days Three, Two, Four and Nine: n A family gift of flashlights (three will run $15-30, Hood River Supply, Tum-A-Lum) n Cell phone chargers (two will run $30-60) n Tire chains (basic set, $30, Les Schwab, returnable if unused for the winter) n Family meals ($100 or so should cover the basics for three or four reasonably well-fed days) n The home kit should be kept in a handy place near an exit, and remember that water needs to be replenished every few months. If you have a solid first aid kit already, switch out the gift idea with “and-a-sto-o-u-t- tub-for it-all …” Otherwise, it’s a case of assembling your home or car kits and making sure all members of the family know what the resources are and how to use them (ie flares and propane). Emergency situations are at worst life-threatening, at best deeply uncomfortable if you and your family are left without power for an extended period, or traveling and find yourself in a situation where you need to wait out a storm, lengthy traffic delay, or other crisis. Notes on the 12 gift ideas: 12 – Gallons of water: that’s one per person in a four-member family to last for three days, the recommended minimum to be prepared for utility outages. 11 – Easy-open packaged goods, energy bars, dried food and nuts are good things to include for nutrition. Think of what your family of four needs for three days to stay fortified and hydrated (see number 12). Can-opener also recommended 10 – If you have a propane camping stove, keep extra fuel handy. 9 – Hygiene bags: put packaged moistened towelettes, toilet paper, and plastic ties in large garbage bags (for personal sanitation) Resource list courtesy of Hood River County Emergency Management, Barbara Ayers, manager/ 541-386-1213. The county also reminds residents to Get a Kit, Make A Plan to connect your family if separated, and Stay Informed. See www.co.hood-river.or.us to opt-in for citizen alerts. Enlarge